Sunday, May 25, 2008

Blind trust !!! Whoom and off it goes !!!

Just now back from a tiring day's outing to dunno’ where all…Had taken my cousin to National Science Museum and then had to drop another acquaintance at he airport. So, loads of driving and all. Amidst all this I somehow forgot about another important turn of my life. I mean I have this stupid kinda' tendency of attributing my commitments to events and further to the resp dates. Hmm..as for example, I had come out of my fragile cocoon of being a fragile soul on 18th April 03 after that stupid accident and like wise. So most of the things that I decide to work on have come out of certain incident or maybe accidents:-)

So, as I said,today,the 25th May '08 was one important day again. Well,frankly speaking this time around I even am not sure that who exactly is the person behind it 'coz I don't even know him/her. but 'coz of him/her only today I have again taken a stand to cut off one more tie from my life.And one close tie believe me.I know I had totally forgotten to be like this for quite some time but then I also have this feeler feel that nobody has any right to tramp upon my self-respect and blind-trust. If the other person does not appreciate even the nuisances of blind trust, here it goes! Whoommm!!! In to the litter!!! Escape !!!Neither for you,nor for me...

So here I am, with a clear cut stand and no second thoughts.Just with slight remorse. Only if…But guess it all is part and parcel of life !!!:-) Satya,Dev !!! remember u guys once telling me about friendship and its implications.Hai na...I still love it but this taken for granted thing was not there in it yaar !:-)Anyways...

Life is the only thing worth dying for !!! It indeed is !!!

Saturday, May 24, 2008

In the memory of Jeetu ! "Main Jindgi ka saath....."

Tell me truly, have you ever felt a sense of absolute failure? A feeling of dismal surrender to fate and an inherent frustration of not been able to either revoke or change the course of life; yours or somebody else’s. Have you ever felt so lonely in your heart that nothing seems like invoking any kind of positive vibe inside you? Have you ever felt that only if you had respected the timelines and honored the commitments, somebody would have had atleast died peacefully?

Frankly admitting, this is all that is going within me since day before. Ever since the moment I realized that I have lost probably my strongest support system amongst friends and my fiercest morale booster. That I have lost a person who made me sing at the top of my voice at midnight and calmed me at the time of fury. That I will never again see the person who
had traveled all the way to Roorkee from Kanpur just so that I challenge the odds (read schemes) and participate in a particular competition, without complaining even once. That I would no longer feel the warmth of a true well wisher who would hug me every day as if it was an entirely new chapter of life and we both need to spread as much love by the time dusk takes over. That I will hear no more from a person whose songs would creep inside one’s heart and render it all the more reason to beat, rhytmically.That I have lost my brother, my friend and my family. That I have lost Jeetu, no, infact Major Jitender Rathore, a guy who loved his country more than any damn thing in this world. More than his family,me,himself. And no, you are amiss if you think he was an army-man. He was a civilian, like you and me, just a bit more civilized.

I simply am not able to fathom that Jeetu is no more because the more I think of it, the more I feel deprived of life. The more I try to run away from his thoughts, the more I find him around, smiling at me, cheering my spirits up ,the way he was doing during our last conversation , exactly 2 weeks before he left. I was so damn happy to hear of him that I kept my phone on speaker as to let Priyanka listen to him and feel the flurry of emotive gestures. I was ecstatic. So was he, telling me about his life, his new to-be job and more than that his marriage been fixed. And then he talked about “SANKALP” something that though named by me was his dream. A dream of better India and even better Indians. A dream about changing the way WE live and a dream about setting new Ethical benchmarks. Both of us alongwith Manish,Lalchandra and Akhilesh had an elaborate discussion on this, the last time he had come down to Delhi in August and the task of writing the prologue was left to me. I had promised a timeline of 15 days then. Its been over 9 months and I am still to start with the same. Every time Jeetu would call me I bloody would tell him that I am not able to find time for it as it needs dedicated hours. I would do 100 odd things but would find no time to start with Jeetu’s dream project. My foot!!! Even during our last call, he requested me to formalize the same so that the same can be initiated and again I just procrastinated it. For the bloody nth time I did it.

And Lo ! today, here I am, still sitting on the idea when the person who had dreamt of it has left with the same in his eyes. I know this would have been one last desire of his during his last breaths and I was damn doing nothing. Or maybe he would have had left any hope. Whichever way, I am a defeated, humiliated and regretful soul. I have not been a good friend to him. the way he was to me. Trust me Jeetu, wherever you are, I would never do this again to anybody, I promise. Please forgive me one last time. I will make sure that your dream takes shape and marks a step towards making our country, your country a better place to live. Just forgive me one last time. Please. Please hug me one more time and make me sing – JAB ZERO DIYA MERE BHARAT NE!!! Please,I promise I will not be discordant and will sing along. Please.

Love you always.

Mocho !

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Full Circles !!!

Life is the only thing worth dying for and it is also something that always comes full circle.It is a phenomenon that is like a Karmic Chakra,an individual just being one of the infinite spokes in it.He rubs onto the edges, wears in the process and decays by the end of it but ultimately completes the odyssey.That is how life has always been to me.Just that probably I have always fragmented it into smaller circles. Every circle representing a phase different from the other one in all respects. If my HBTI days were one phase, my SIMSR days were entirely incongruent.But these were the phases when I had such immense learnings that neither the journey felt like a long road to heavens nor the edges actually wore off.I simply underwent positive attrition.

Now why all this gyaan ! Because this blog marks the end of another phase in my life.The phase that started on 14thMay 2007 with me joining this bank I work for.So,here I declare that I have ultimately managed to survive in a financial corp after all the skepticism and fear. Now with that said,I also need to evaluate myself after this vital phase.Let me just give it a shot.

:-)

  • This one year indeed exposed me to the most vital constituent of any corporate, "Character"
  • I find myself been evolved into a smart worker if not a smart banker.
  • Learnt that time and resource management is the key to success and networking is the first step stone to that.Also that perseverance leads to the best outcomes.
  • The best of all, it gave me an opportunity to interact with the best guys in the industry.Immense peer learning.

:-(

  • I find myself much more irresponsible than ever in handling the tasks assigned to me. It probably is due to the dearth of motivation.Trust me,self-motivation was never an issue for me.
  • The work has made me even more finicky about the system. In any case one can simply not go on idolizing something where there is no progression as such.In my case the first 6 months were not evaluated on performance,because there wasn't any and the appraisal was as vague as a Moral Science Paper.
  • My biggest strength of getting connected to the people and earning their faith has come down drastically. It is demanding damn lot of effort now.
  • I am surprised that now I just hate competition.It is just so fierce and senseless at times.
  • My biggest asset,my concentration is lost big time.In any case you just can’t expect the same in a fish market,do you?

I believe there are damn many things that need attention now and I will have to make sure that they meet the intended end but then so much is lost that regaining will take helluva' time.But the best thing about being short of choices is that you really don't have too many options to consider:-)Life indeed has come full circle.I feel I was born on yesterday.